The ego works in your subconscious to hurt you. You need to attack it where it lives but you need to do so consciously. The following are ways to do so:
1–dont take anything personal
2–dont make assumptions
3–be impeccable with your words
(above are from Ruiz’s book the four agreements)
4–pray to God or do mind treatments
5-forgive and release transgressions
6-love
7-treat others as you would like to be treated
8-see all others as innocent and pure
Conversely do the opposite of the above to help your ego and hurt yourself.